tHis, THis is My LiST

1. Please don't make me handle more than I can. I am helpless when you do this, and I hurt all over. Please, please, protect me.

2. I was born this way and can't change. I know you sometimes think something awful must have made me this way, or at least made me "worse", but that ought to give you even more sympathy for me. Because either way I can't help it. Either way, don't blame me for how I am.

3. What I am is wonderful - I let you sense and feel so much more deeply. I am really one of the best things about you.

4. Check in on me often and take care of me right at that moment if you possibly can. Then, when you can't, I can trust that you are at least trying and I won't have long to wait.

5. If you must make me wait for my rest, please ask me nicely if it's okay. I'm only more miserable and troublesome if you get angry and try to force me.

6. Don't listen to all the people who say you spoil me. You know me. You decide. Yes, sometimes I might do better left alone to cry myself to sleep. But trust your intuition. Sometimes you know I am too upset to be left alone. I do need a pretty attentive, regular routine, but I'm not easily spoiled.

7. When I'm exhasted, I need sleep. Even when I seem totally wide awake. A regular schedule and a calm routine before bed are important to me. Otherwise, I will lie awake in bed all stirred up for hours. I need a lot of time in bed, even if I'm lying awake. I may need it in the middle of the day, too. Please let me have it.

8. Get to know me better. For example, noisy restaurants seem silly to me - how can anybody eat in them? I have a lot of feelings about such things.

9. Keep my toys simple and my life uncomplicated. Don't take me to more than one party in a week.

10. I might get used to anything in time, but I don't do well with a lot of sudden change. Please plan for that, even if the others with you can take it and you don't want to be a drag. Let me go slow.

11. But I don't want you to coddle me. I especially don't want you to think of me as sick or weak. I'm wonderfully clever and strong, in my way. I certainly don't want you hovering over me, worried about me all day. Or making a lot of excuses for me. I don't want to be seen as a nuisance, to you or to others. Above all, I count on you, the grown-up, to figure out how to do all of this.

12. Please don't ignore me. Love me!

13. And like me. As I am.

(from "The Highly Sensitive Person" by Elaine N. Aron)
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